I will never forget the moment I met my partner for the first time at the Guggenheim museum. It was 2013 and I was a busy graduate student getting my MFA in Curatorial Practice in Baltimore patiently enduring the monotony of OkCupid dates at bars when I stumbled upon Anthony’s profile. I was hooked on Anthony, aka “Intellectualguy”. After exchanging some long winded life essays I told him I was going to be in New York during Spring Break for museum research, to which he replied “I’ll be in New York visiting my family for Spring Break too!”. YES, perfect!
Fast forward to a chilly New York weekday in March: I’m sitting in the marble lobby of the Guggenheim anxiously twisting my blue scarf fringe around my fingers next to some older ladies taking a break from all the art. He’s running two hours late. I’m totally OK with this as he later explained his Puerto Rican grandmother made him stay at the house longer to finish eating her lunch (I get it)! Suddenly he walks through the lobby doors, and that typical cliché love at first sight moment happens: the world around me blurs and slows down as my eyes dart straight to a tall, dark, and handsome young man. “Get it together girl. This is it, this is it, this is the one.” My heart is racing out of my chest and my brain is tumbling through images of our future together all in the blink of an eye. I confidently walk over him to give him a hug. It’s a brief, tight, and tingly embrace that feels like it lasts for three minutes. Yup. This is it. We walk through the rounded walls of the art filled Guggenheim so comfortably together. It’s as if we’ve known each other for years as I talk about the Gutai art like a typical curator would. The art sparks conversations about our tastes, phenomenology and suddenly we’re telling stories about our families and childhood dreams. We didn’t leave each other’s side the rest of the afternoon. The museum was the perfect place for us to discover ourselves and eachother.
That #museumdate story brings me to this blog post to further explain why museum dates are the best dates to spice up your love life or propose to that cutie you have had your eye on in the OKcupid app. We even found these adorable #museumdate pictures on Instagram from other fellow creatives who agree that museum dates are the best dates, check em’ out!
1. Obama says, “Art...it impresses people...”
Museums are a great place to have intellectual conversations, like Michelle and Barack did! Hear them recall their first date at the Art Institute of Chicago on Huffpost and “take tips gentlemen!”
2. Museums are a great place for conversation!
You will never have a moment of awkward silence, even if you don’t feel like an art expert! Take an art professional’s words of advice: Use the Visual Thinking Strategy questions below to spark conversation and get to know your date. They work on museum tours too, believe me!
What do you see?
What makes you say that?
What more can you say?
Or you can just mimic the sculptures so you avoid the fact that you are anxious af...
3. You can learn a lot about your date from way they perceive art.
And while you're listening to your date answer the above questions, you get to learn about how your date thinks about art, which can give you hints on how that person perceives life.
4. You can look at art, and eat too!
Museums are a one stop shop for eating at the café for brunch mimosas AND looking at art! It’s also a great opportunity to see how your date treats their server...20% or it’s over! Check out this adorable art loving couple at Café Sebastienne inside the Kemper Museum of Contemporary Art in Kansas City! PS - Cafe Sebastienne was named Top 10 Best Brunch Restaurants in America for 2017 on OpenTable). #lifegoals
5. Museums host parties too!
Museums have a ton of after-hours programs that make great introductions to those dates who would rather go to the bar or club every weekend. My favorite one is Miami’s Poplife Social at the Perez Art Museum Miami which was named Best Art Mixer by Miami New Times Best of Art & Entertainment! See? Miami isn’t ALWAYS about clubbing on South Beach, but we go like to go hard, even at museums!
6. Museums are Instagram ready.
Museums make great backdrops for cute selfies like this one by @danymoc at the Museo Universitario Arte Contemporáneo in Mexico. After 5+ years, make an artful scrapbook with these bold and colorful photos so you can reminisce outside of your phone screen…(and save those museum admission tickets for the scrap book too!)
And when you post those #museumdate pics on Instagram, you seem pretty cultured too, like Queen Bey and Jay Z:
9. Surprise your date with a gift from the Museum shop!
At the end of your date, you can go to the museum gift shop to buy a souvenir! Here’s an idea: surprise your date with the postcard of the art they liked the most as a romantic gesture at the end of the day so they can treasure it on their bedroom corkboard until it fades as a result of sun damage.
10. You can preserve memories by adding a museum catalog to your library collection!
If you reaaalllyy like them, take my advice and buy the catalogue for the exhibition you two saw together. And when you are having a rainy day, pull out the book to reminisce the artworks that you talked about on your first date! I so wish I bought this Guggenheim catalog for that Gutai art show me and my partner saw in 2013. I guess it’s never too late? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
And there you have it! Those are the reasons why Creative Unions endorses museum dates! It brings my heart such joy when I see these adorable pictures of couples in museums, reminding me of that magical time I first laid my eyes on Anthony in a museum. That date at the Guggenheim set us up for a life full of intellectual conversation and creativity.
Ever since then, Anthony and I talk about out of the box wedding ideas. He often says, “Knowing you, you’ll end up curating our wedding”. Fast forward four and a half years and I’ve DIY’ed my own dream job that combines my passion for art and love into the first event planning company dedicated to integrating contemporary art into weddings for creative couples like us. I guess I owe it to him and more importantly, that time we met at the museum, which set the tone for a life full of art and love.
Stop by the blog later and check out why Creative Unions thinks museums are the best places for weddings (and engagement photo shoots)!
Michelle Ivette Gomez is an arts professional with a love for romance and art, and a passion for bringing people together and telling stories through art. She received her MFA in Curatorial Practice from the Maryland Institute College of Art where she focused on co-creative curatorial practice and expanding traditional methods of exhibition presentation in collaboration with communities. As the Founder & Creative Director of Creative Unions Event Design LLC, the first event planning company dedicated to integrating contemporary art into life’s celebrations, she views marriage celebrations as specially curated art exhibitions that bring people together to celebrate and express unique love stories.